Ten years ago, in a simple church in Fairfax Station, Rob and I promised our lives to each other. I still remember that day as one of the happiest days of my life. it's funny to think back on that day now, ten years later and to realize how young we were still, even tho i remember feeling so dang-on mature that day! and now with the wisdom and experience of ten more years together, to recall how simple and carefree our relationship had been then, but of course we didnt fully appreciate that then! but looking back, it's interesting to see how simple our lives were. we didnt have to work as hard at our relationship then as we did in the years that followed as jobs changed, children entered the picture, lives became that much busier and we had less and less time for each other and more and more responsibilities burdening our backs. and many times there were BIG arguments as we muddled through, trying to keep pace with our changing lives. and sometimes BIG sadnesses as loved ones passed on. there were big joys as well, as with the birth of each of our beautiful children. and of course lots and lots of little moments of happiness as well as a fair share of disgruntled moments too. there were times when i couldnt have imagined my life ever being any more perfect. and there were times when i was truly scared that we couldnt get past our differences and the big D word clung to the tips of our tongues, threatening to roll off and mean it.
despite the downs, or maybe because of them, our relationship has grown and matured in a way i could never have imagined that day i walked down the aisle. oh, i knew going into it, that it would not be easy, that there would be hardships, i wasnt expecting that life would always be strewn with flowers as the aisle i walked upon, but neither could i fully comprehend then, how hard it would be nor how much we would grow in our pursuit to build a life together. there was a lot i didnt know back then, but i did know, with absolute certainty, that i had picked the right person to travel down that path with.
we still have our ups and downs, but it seems the downs are not quite as horrid as they used to be...i think that's good progress. lol. perhaps our saving grace has been our ability to be flexible with one another and with whatever changes come our way. it is the willow that survives the storm not the rigid oak, no? knowing what we know, and having grown as much was we both have, i think that the next ten years will be that much easier. we've learned a few things and are not so new to thing whole marriage thing anymore.
i think we got it all figured out.
mostly.
despite the downs, or maybe because of them, our relationship has grown and matured in a way i could never have imagined that day i walked down the aisle. oh, i knew going into it, that it would not be easy, that there would be hardships, i wasnt expecting that life would always be strewn with flowers as the aisle i walked upon, but neither could i fully comprehend then, how hard it would be nor how much we would grow in our pursuit to build a life together. there was a lot i didnt know back then, but i did know, with absolute certainty, that i had picked the right person to travel down that path with.
we still have our ups and downs, but it seems the downs are not quite as horrid as they used to be...i think that's good progress. lol. perhaps our saving grace has been our ability to be flexible with one another and with whatever changes come our way. it is the willow that survives the storm not the rigid oak, no? knowing what we know, and having grown as much was we both have, i think that the next ten years will be that much easier. we've learned a few things and are not so new to thing whole marriage thing anymore.
i think we got it all figured out.
mostly.
to my darling husband, happy 10th anniversary.
i love you.
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